I want to tell you about the time where I felt truly confident about the fact that I am a feminist. I was at my day job, chatting to a colleague about feminism, but as soon as I uttered that forbidden word, and declared myself part of the movement, he laughed. He told me that I surely couldn't be a feminist, and proceeded to list the reasons why. He started by telling me that I wasn't "hairy, angry or ugly enough" to call myself a proper feminist. As you can imagine, this didn't exactly sit well with me! The stereotype of only angry women being true feminists, truly astounds me. I don't understand why being an independent woman, who wants to be treated equal to men, gets labelled as they do. But it was something that I wanted to understand more.
After the insult, came even more nonsense, in the form of back tracking. He did apologise that he caused offence, but didn't apologise for the words that he said. I proceeded to correct him, that anyone can be a feminist, even himself, and the stereotypical views that he had of these particular women was not only misogynist, but very cruel. His old fashioned ways of how he perceived feminism, is the main reason that we get such a bad rap. Well, for the next half an hour or so, I proceeded to tell him why he was not only wrong, but just what feminism means to me, and the degree of people's beliefs. Which he obviously loved me for, but deserved. He did understand, after my rant, that he could have been mistaken in regards to who he perceives as feminists. But I don't know if I truly believed him.
But from this horrible experience, came an idea. An idea of a light hearted take on feminism. A place where women could come together, and show the world that no matter what you look like, or how hairy you are, all women are equal. This is where the Ugly Girls Club was born. I wanted to be part of a group for empowered, independent and strong women, who are tired of being stereotyped as an "ugly and angry woman" just for believing in equality. I wanted to create something that would laugh in the face of all those colleagues who tell you that you cant be a feminist. All of those people that judge and ridicule us for the use of that one word: "feminism". So join our club, spread the equality and love for your fellow women everywhere!
Here's to The Ugly Girls Club, and all the wonderful members in it!